Over the years the concept of the woman has fascinated me. Why did God choose to create her if she was going to be a door to the fall of mankind. Why create her such a weakling? Why is she often harassed by the insurmountable hurdles of life? Then the Lord gave me this understanding. I hope it will bless you as you read; KEY SCRIPTURES Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:21-23 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Picture this, in a beautifully created universe and the most perfect garden you could ever imagine. It's paradise. A perfect God has just finished creating a masterpiece of his handiwork. The perfect universe and says to it "it is good". However as he is admiring his work, he spots one of his creation; Adam, strolling along alone and without a partner. Well he had created Adam like himself but then Adam needed someone to relate to on his level. He shakes his head and says no, this is not good, he shouldn't be alone, Adam needs a partner. I am going to get him one. Wouldn't it be normal to assume that if he is to create another, he is going to simply create a totally new human being just like himself or like Adam? Well guess what; he doesn't. Instead he causes Adam to sleep and creates an Eve. But Why would he do that? The man God had created was perfection in it itself. He was both male and female as God the father is. We refer to God as a father most of the times in prayers but countless times in scripture God has showed us how He has mothered us, carried us, fed us and loved us with all the characteristics of the female attribute . Now back to Adam. He causes Adam to fall into a deep sleep and takes a rib(a focal point of human existence) out of him. God did not create a new rib but took one of the ribs already created in Adam and formed a woman out of it. But note this; why must God put man to sleep first before he creates the woman? Adam could have simply watched from a distance if this was a matter of disturbance but the bible says He caused the man to fall into a deep sleep? The hebrew word(תַּרְדֵּמָה)-"tardemah" for deep sleep here equates to a deep slumber almost like death. The man had to die for the woman to be created. Even at creation God was showing us a symbol of love through Christ. Christ had to die for his church(bride) in order for the bride to be formed. So the bible says "husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her" For the perfect creation and union of the male and female specie, the male has to die to himself.-------will explain better in next blog. The makeup of a woman is created in such a delicate and complex way that only the creator fully understands it . Most women don't even understand themselves and what they sometimes go through. So they seek comfort or solace in other women making a whole new complex cycle. The male counterpart does not really comprehend the female either. However the funny thing is this everything female brings out the MAN out of the man. An example is this; watch how a group of young men will be walking down the street anyhow but as soon as they see a woman, a beautiful woman at that, their walking even changes. How they talk to the woman even changes. Watch how immediately after Adam wakes up from his slumber and sees Eve, He calls her bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh and immediately scripture says "so shall a man leave his father........" Some theologians have argued saying that part of scripture does not really fit into the creation story in Genesis but God was trying to pinpoint what a woman will make a man do. Now lets focus on who the woman is. The devil saw Adam and all living creatures being created but was never interested in interrupting anything. Infact he could have but he didn't but watch this. As soon as the woman was created and she appeared on the scene, the devil said No, No, No. It is time to move. I have to move in now. I cannot wait . Why so? For some reason the devil understood exactly who the woman is and her destiny. He knew that if he was able to get the woman he could get an entire generation unborn. He knew he could destroy the destiny of a man through the woman. He knew the entire plan of the world was somehow linked with this weakling that was just created. I doubt the woman herself knew who she was and that is why it was easy to fall prey to the enemy. The devil knew that the woman was there as an important key in creation. We all know what happened in Genesis chapter 3. Some have argued what was the woman doing by the tree. And why was she speaking to the devil in the first place and where was Adam etc etc but my interest today is not to analyze that but to explain the consequences of the curse placed on the woman Genesis 3:1313 And the Lord God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat. First word here is "beguiled" which also means deceived. But there was no mention of deceiving when they were conversing because the record tells us they were simply talking. Isn't it funny how the most dangerous consequence of our lives have always started with "oh but i was simply......." If only we would be on the constant watch out and know that THE DEVIL HAS A PERSONAL HATRED against women. To continue; the woman said. "the serpent deceived me". At this point, the woman has clearly perceived what has happened to her. She knew she had been deceived. She knew her wrong and could identify when she had fallen from glory. She did not say the "serpent made me do it" as Adam did by saying "the woman made me do it". There was no more blame game here. She knew fully what she had done so it was easy for her to receive redemption. Now my favorite scripture Genesis 3:15........ And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel. In this scripture a clear battle line was drawn. Even the outcome and effect of the battle was stated. FOREVER IN THE ORDER OF THE UNIVERSE AND EVERYTHING CREATED THERE WILL BE A DEEP HATRED BETWEEN THE DEVIL AND THE WOMAN. This is the reason for the hatred. First of all althoughthe woman had done wrong, she was given a new role of a life giver and a nurturer. God puts in place a rule that for anyone to be recognized as legal here on this earth he/she must come through the womb of a woman. This is why angels don't live physically with us and Jesus, who is God still had to come to earth through the womb of a woman. To better understand, lets take a look at this, Eve came from Adam but now every Adam or new Eve must come through this woman. According to genetics we all know that the woman still has the "x" chromosome. All she is and will ever give out is another version of herself. Adam originally and currently contains both the "x" which is the female and the "y" which is the male chromosomes. However it is no more out of Adam that anyone legal on this earth must come through but the woman. The male still gives his seed to the woman however it is the woman's duty to bring forth whatever the man gives her. The woman here has now turned into a vital key in the universe and she now recognizes her role but does not fully yet understand it. Because the devil wanted to attack the woman and everything that she is, her seed has now been turned into a weapon of mass destruction for the devil. The seed of the woman "will bruise thy head" - meaning totally destroy you. This was the promise given to her the woman. Whilst the seed of the serpent "will bruise her heel"- afflict her and cause her downfall in any and every way possible. This means as long as you are a woman born unto this earth am sorry but you are already in a battle that had been drawn before you were born. Is it then any wonder that in churches and hospitals all over the world women have been afflicted by unimaginable torments. Of diseases, of weaknesses, of conditions science sometimes cannot even explain. Drug abuse and prostitution. The number of suicides for women are tremendous all over the world and yet we do not understand what is happening to us. Failed promises, broken hearts, miscarriages and pain that is unimaginable is because the heel is being attacked. IS IT A LOST CAUSE THEN? NO! What is the countermove? Praise be to God that just a few inches above our heels is our knees. Our most powerful position. If only we would go down on our knees and lift up prayers to the heavens. To the one who created the rule and sits enthroned in the heavens. We will destroy the head of the serpent. Our husbands will be saved. Our marriages will be saved. Our children will not be killed or go astray. The ark of the most high will rest in our bodies and we wont fall prey to diseases and infirmities. If only women will know who they really are and take up their mantles again. If women will stand at the doorway and the gates of their lives, the families, their cities and countries I believe an entire generation will be saved. Have you ever wondered why the Lord Jesus used or ministered to women during his ministry on earth? This is because for centuries women had been relegated to the background. The devil was causing havoc to their lives and causing women to live in defeat when that was not the original intent why the woman was created. Historically the Jews did not regard women or even their testimony and some still don't. However when the Lord Jesus came here on earth, the very vessel the enemy was destroying was the same vessel he used. Wherein then is the credibility of a story if it is a woman who first saw the resurrected Lord?. And yet God allowed it to be recorded in scripture. All through history women that availed themselves for the Lord were used for his glory. I pray women all over the world would wake up from slumber and take hold of their inheritance in the Lord.
On this day, She was
restless and she knew why. She had heard Judah was on his way to
Timnah to shear sheep. The time of shearing sheep was a festive one
where neighbors gathered amongst friends to celebrate. It had been
several years since she had left her father-in-law's house. He had
given her the promise that she will be redeemed at a later date by
his youngest son Shelah. That hope; for her had since evaporated. Any
hope of being married to Shelah was totally gone now. The young man
was off age and had been for sometime now. However Judah seemed to
have forgotten completely about her. It was obvious Judah blamed the
loss of his two sons on her. But she didn't blame him. Who could? She
hadn't yet told anyone the intricacies of the matter. Will anyone
believe her if she had? Speaking ill of the dead was unheard of and
will attract contempt.
But for Tamar what
she was struggling to grasp with at the moment wasn't that. Rather,
why Judah would not release her from his authority and set her free
from his family so she could be free to marry another man of her
choice. She was in her prime and she wasn't going to let her season
pass her by. She had hatched the perfect plan in her mind and she was
only waiting for the opportunity to carry it out. It wasn't going to
be easy. She knew the full implications of it but then she had her
confidence coming from a higher ground.
Her dreams in the
past days had been relentless and yet they had all pointed out to one
thing. She was a carrier of Redeemers and Kings. She thought at first
it was her worries that had produced these dreams but it hadn't been
so. The God of the Universe had finally heard her cries for mercy. It
was with these revelations in her spirit that she scorned the
consequence of her upcoming actions.
dressed up putting away her widow and mourning garments. She put on
lovely garments, adorned herself with precious ornaments, poured a
lovely fragrance over herself and picked up her veil. She covered her
face with it , only revealing her eyes. She lifted up her eyes to the
heavens and sent a quick prayer upstairs and she was out the door.
She wasn't going to
miss one minute of this divine appointment. She was going to meet her
It had been a couple
of days after the incident. It was quiet gloomy but she was keeping herself
together amidst the grief. She was in her tent folding up clothes
when she heard the scuffle at her door. It was the sound of someone
at her doorsteps. She looked up as she heard her name being called
out. It was Judah calling. “May I come in?”, he requested.
She signaled him in.
She got up from her bed and stood with her head bowed as a sign of
respect to the elderly man. He looked a bit uncomfortable as he came
in. He appeared to be troubled by something. He went straight to the
point as he came towards her
“I think you
should go back to your father's house Tamar”, Judah spoke. “There
isn't much for you to do around here and it will alleviate your grief
to be in a different environment. At least if not totally, a
fraction of it. Besides ,my youngest son Shelah is not of age yet. I
will definitely come for you when he is off age so that he will be
given to you for marriage.”, he continued.
So rational and so
straight to the point, she thought to herself. There was wisdom to
what her father-in-law was saying. A fresh environment would do her
great good. She needed to be amongst her own people. And it wasn't
like she was going to be missed anyway.
She responded in the
affirmative to his request. She would do what he requested.
Early the next
morning , Tamar set off with her maid servants to her fathers house.
It wasn't much of a journey, though not too long a trip, it was very
much welcomed. It was with the hope that she might find rest at her
fathers house and be redeemed at a later date.
Tamar lay still in
bed listening to the sounds of chirping birds on the nearby trees. It
wasn’t evening yet and the day seemed to move by quite slowly for
her. She had been called in by her husband Onan. She had left her
chores midway to come please him at his request. But then here she
was; lying on bed after the aftermath of their copulation and still
felt wary of herself. There was something definitely wrong. This was
not what the womenfolks talked about whenever they talked about sex.
They always had this look of fulfillment, satisfaction. Call it
whatever it may be but definitely not what she was feeling right now.
She knew that she was missing out on something.
This was her second
marriage. She had been a virgin when she had been given into
marriage. Her relationship with her first husband hadn’t been much
to talk about. She had barely known him when he passed away. They had
had only a few days together. But then as the Jewish custom will
have it, She had been given to the next-in-line brother, Onan to
continue his heritage. This is because she had no children with her
first husband. Here
she was having these same thoughts going through her mind and heart.
It was a feeling of déjà vu. She signed.
She got up from the
bed and rustled through the crumpled clothes on the floor looking for
her cover cloth. She found it and covered herself. Silently stepping
outside so as not to wake her sleeping husband. She made her way out.
The air outside was quiet cool as it hit her. She hadn't noticed the
tears that had spilled down her face amidst the thoughts that run
through her mind. Quickly, she wiped them away and scurried to
continue her chores and help the other women in the house.
She tried to make
sense of all that was happening to her but
words were not enough to explain them. She was
beautiful in every sense of the word and yet she didn't feel womanly
enough. Womanhood; the pride and joy of it seemed to elude her. Which
woman after being married to two able-bodied men was unable to get
pregnant. Yet she also knew it had nothing to do with her. How do you
explain the secret matters of the bedroom to another person? It was
as if the men had disgust for the thought of her carrying their seed.
How do you call a woman into your tent to sleep with her with the
sole of purpose of satisfying your need and have no regards to the
need of the woman?
To her; a whore was
of much better value than her. At least, they had something to show
forth for their labor. Something to prove the substance of their
trade. At least that was more honorable. But here she was; she had
nothing. Absolutely nothing!
A S-C-R-E-A-M broke
though her thoughts terrain. Followed by a heart wrenching wail. Her
heart skipped a beat as she ran towards the source of the scream. It
was coming from Onan's room. She ran towards the room.
She was shaking as
she reached it and entered into the tent. What she saw before her
confirmed her fears. It had happened again. Onan dead! She broke down
and began to sob. “Not again!”, she cried. Wailing, she felt she
couldn't take it any longer. Judah, her father-in-law came for her.
He took her outside the tent . He took her to the women so she could
But no, not this
time. No one could console her. Her grief was beyond reason. Her
grief was made much worse as the thought of the stigma that was
associated with it stared at her in the face. For the second time, a
man she was married to dies.
The next few days
were quiet a drudgery. Like a forlorn woman, she could barely lift
her head. She couldn't move around freely without bumping into
someone who beheld her with pity or the other one ; mockery. She
preferred to be alone rather than to seek the company of her women
folk. The gossip, the stigma, it was just too much.
She would often cry
unto the God of her forefathers and yet that was when God decided to
remain quiet. Judah as her father-in-law preferred to avoid her - who
could blame him. Having lost two sons to the same woman, his grief
was also comprehensible.
The father of the
tribe Jacob was known as a man with a deep connection with the God of
the Universe. A man believed to be blessed by God had no words of
comfort for her either. Or to even explain why she has faced this
fate. Based on Genesis 38